Having a Baby

Here are some ways which you can do to prevent jealousy of your new born:

• It is good to prepare your older child especially if he is still young, about 2 to 5 years old and still needing attention from you. Let him know he is going to have a baby brother or sister and that you have to look after baby.

• During your pregnancy share the stages of baby development by showing him pictures from a book or the internet.

• Let your child help you to purchase your baby products such as baby crib, stroller, diapers, clothes, bottles. He will find it enjoyable and will be eager to have the baby and share your love.

• Let your child have his own room of toys, books etc. When baby arrives, ask him to share his belongings willingly on his own with the baby.

• Ask your child to help in the bathing, bottle feeding and playing with baby. You have to be around when he does all these.

• Always have time with your child alone when baby is asleep. Do the usual routine which you normally did with your child before the arrival of the new born. Otherwise he may feel that baby is snatching your love from him.

• If your child is going to preschool, then ensure you start him in the school before you deliver your baby. He may think you are sending him away and may resent going to school.

• Let him visit you in hospital and touch baby. Help him learn to accept baby.

• When friends come to visit you, remember to introduce your child. Your spouse or caregiver can play with him while your friends are admiring your baby.